I don’t really know where this blog is heading - it doesn’t seem to have a theme or anything so tonight I wanted to reflect on mentoring and the sheer power a mentor can give someone.
I am fortunate enough to have two mentors. One is my husband, the other is my boss, colleague and I am lucky enough to have her also as my very good friend. She says that she isn’t my boss but I am accountable to her, and she is my first port of call when I have a problem or need help… so she must be my boss…
Anyway, that is besides the point… for now…
Today I had a mini epiphany… one of my students isn’t as bright as I thought she was…
I teach this girl who is the most amazing student. She is truly inspirational - the way she manages huge groups of people in a diplomatic way that makes no one feel unnoticed or unwanted but lets those who she doesn’t agree with know that they need to work damn hard to get her back onside… and everybody wants to be on her side. She is hugely popular - but isn’t “popular” or “cool”. She does what she wants to do, how she wants to do it. I admire this. Hugely. It inspires me to be a better person.
Anyway… today I realised that she wasn’t gifted or bright. For two years I have taught this girl and thought she was a genius. Her grades are consistently high and she completes everything she does to an absolutely high standard… today I asked (for the first time ever) one of my colleagues about this particular student’s academic ability in other areas. It turns out that this (media) is her thing. She loves it. It’s her passion - but today I realised I had never before questioned her ability. I always took it as given that she was talented. I truly believed in her. Since I assumed she was bright I gave her extension tasks, I marked her work hard and always provided challenging feedback. She rose to it.
I feel sad that I can’t do this for every student. I don’t know how to go about it so that every single student (and this year I teach over 200) feels that I fully believe in their ability - to inspire and challenge them to achieve the best they can.
Today it clicked for me what people mean when they say have high expectations of your students and they will rise to this. But how do you go about being sincere in this belief of your students. How do you have high expectations through personalising learning? Is it still a high expectation if you are setting the bar lower for one student than another because you know what is attainable for them? What if they really can achieve higher than you think they can but you don’t ever give them the chance to? What if you expect too much and they never meet your expectations and therefore see themselves as failures?
Tonight I realised how much I had been inspired by my mentor.
I was a teacher who was competent - more than competent - and willing to take a risk. I was looking for a mountain - and yes! I did find it and I have just reached the summit … and realised I have only just walked into the mountain range and beyond me is another - bigger - mountain that I would never have known about had I not climbed the first one.
I had little belief in myself. I had never done anything outstanding. I wanted to do something ‘cool’ and that would get me really, really excited - but I never knew what that was. Until now.
I feel like I have had a complete turning point. I have actually achieved goals that I set this time last year. Doors are opening and I am EXCITED about what lies ahead in my career. I have more goals and a vision.
My mentor picked me up and empowered me to make the decisions I have made, to follow through with the thinking I have had and supported me in leadership opportunities.
But - she does this for so, so many. Other teachers and many students. It is a true credit to her to be a mentor, to make one person feel so empowered but to do this for so many others is truly inspirational.
This post is nothing profound and I guess one day I will look back at this and cringe. But for me, today, it has been really important to be able to verbalise my thinking - once it’s written it becomes so real! And this, I think, is the type of on-going reflection that we, as professionals, should all be engaging in in some form or another. Some write it in a diary, before blogs I never wrote down anything… I guess it’s the thrill of putting it out there for others to see and having to be 100% accountable for every word I have written.